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How do I respond to a disclosure of sexual violence?

Although, it can be really difficult and painful for us to hear, when someone trusts us enough to disclose that they have experienced sexual violence, how we respond matters. It’s a moment that demands compassion, sensitivity, and a commitment to providing the right kind of support.  In this blog, we provided steps a person can take when supporting an adult survivor of sexual violence. From staying calm and present to empowering survivors to make their own choices, each step plays a crucial role in creating a safe and supportive environment for the survivor.  You can use these four steps as guide if an adult discloses to you.

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Step One - Assess immediate needs.

Is the person disclosing safe right now?  Do they need immediate medical attention, a change of clothes, a glass of water or somewhere to sleep that night?

Step Two - Validate and Respond

Express belief in the survivor’s account of what happened, affirming that it’s not their fault and that they deserve support. Validate their feelings of fear, anger, shame, or guilt, emphasizing that these emotions are normal reactions to trauma. Take a deep breath and focus on being calm and fully present with the person.  Listen without interrupting, judging, or doubting their experience.  Let them speak at their own pace and avoid asking for details.

Step Three - Explore Choices

Help the survivor reclaim a sense of control by empowering them to make informed decisions about their next steps. While it may be a knee-jerk reaction to suggest involving the police, it’s essential to recognise that many survivors may not feel comfortable or safe pursuing that path, for various valid reasons. Offer support and guidance in exploring available resources and options, such as support, legal assistance, or medical care, while respecting their autonomy and preferences. Reassure them that they’re not alone and that help is available whenever they’re ready. 

Step Four - record keeping and referrals

If you are a professional you will need to follow your organisation procedures for recording a disclosure.  Anybody can refer themselves to The STAR Centre for emotional support. You can help refer someone to The STAR Centre by phone: 01563 544 686 or through our online form.  

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